why is it that it is so common for couples to argue and fight? true, it is two humans trying to find themselves along with trying to find out their partners. but i mean, why do they have to forget about the respect for one another?
2 couples went at it last night.
couple one: started off as a small argument, and next thing you know the police is outside the door. no, there was no physical violence, but when you're arguing and open the pandora box of insults, you know it will not have a nice end. whatever they may have said to each other, they did it just to hurt that person. furniture started to move and the voices grew louder.
couple2: she calls him some name. he does not like it, and there you go. the rest is history.
one thing that i always tell Partner (my guy. not his real name, of course!) is that once you lose the respect, you have nothing left. yeah in the beginning it may be funny to playfully insult one another. however, before you know it that comfort zone gets bigger and bigger and pretty soon you are out in public calling each other this and that.
ex:
girl and boy are joking around in a car after they are leaving his friend's house. girl is rearranging her pants and is singing her own tunes. she thinks it would be funny to just wiggle her butt towards the window and then boy jokes, "haha, whore. hahahaaa"
*wth just happened?*
should girl get mad or should girl let it go, or should she reply something up to the same caliber?
a)-if she gets mad he will probably say-"gosh calm down! i was just joking! i can't even joke with you?"
b)-if she lets it go, he will notice that nothing happened and it might happen again down the road. next thing you know he can do it out in public. and they both know that they are joking, but does the public also know that? what about later in an argument... what if he calls her something inappropriate? wouldn't that just make things worse?
c)-if she replies with something of the like, he might not like it. then he will get mad and girl will say, "gosh calm down! i was just joking! i can't even joke with you?"
and i am not just saying it's always a guy that starts. it can also be a girl that begins the "playful" name calling.
all i am saying is that you always should respect individuals. ESPECIALLY if you claim to care for them as much as you say you do. last thing you want to do is hurt them.
and in case of an argument, appoint yourself as the mature person and just shut up. don't feed the fire. things will be bound to get worse. and yes you can later apologize and whatever else, but you and the other person will remember the bad moment that took place.
and lastly, not only do you disrespect the other person, but you also disrespect yourself by stooping to a lower level. don't do that to yourself. have some pride.
